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Does Bedwetting Hypnosis Work?

You’re not the first parent to wonder if bedwetting hypnosis works, and the short answer is “yes”, but we also feel that we need to give you the longer and more nuanced answer.

What psychologists and paediatricians working with children dealing with bedwetting saw is that hypnosis can be effective. It won’t work in absolutely all cases, both because the cause of the nocturnal enuresis can be, in fact, medical, or because the child is refusing to cooperate or the hypnotherapy sessions stopped too soon.

What turns many parents to what’s commonly called bedwetting hypnosis is the fact that it’s a natural and less expensive treatment option, one that has no negative side effects.

Clinical Psychologists and Professors Dr Thomas Virden and Dr Beth Keen, writing about bedwetting, stated that research suggested that many children dealing with bedwetting responded within four to six hypnosis sessions. They also emphasised one other important benefit of hypnosis:

“Hypnosis can give the child the power to treat him or herself so it can also help build the self-confidence and self-esteem that may have been lost through the bedwetting experience”.

How Does Bedwetting Affect a Child?

The two distinguished Doctors mentioned the loss of self-esteem because it’s a severe issue. The wet clothes and bed linen are nothing compared to the damage bedwetting can do to a child’s self-esteem. What parents need to understand is that bedwetting is a problem beyond their little one’s physical control. That can take an emotional toll on a child who is just discovering who they are and assessing their importance.

A study actually showed that young children who wet the bed at night rate bedwetting as the third most important problem they have to deal with, following only their parents’ divorce or domestic fights.

Children don’t know why they wet the bed, and because they can’t control it, they’re deeply ashamed of it. That leads to feelings of embarrassment building up over time, affecting the child’s opinion of themselves, how they act in social situations, what they believe their parents think about them, and even school performance.

Is Bedwetting Common?

The Royal Children’s Hospital Melbourne estimates that in the state of Victoria alone, there are over 35,000 children between the ages of five and 15 who regularly wet the bed. The number of children who wet the bed is falling as children age. 33% of all four-year-olds are bedwetters, while only 10% of all 6-year-olds and just 5% of all 10-year-olds are still wetting the bed at their age.

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What are the Non-Medical Causes of Bedwetting?

There are a few potential causes that aren’t related to a medical issue worth noting.

One of them is a genetic predisposition. If one or both of the parents wet the bed as kids, it’s likely that their children will also deal with this issue for longer than most of their peers.

Other causes can be traced back to the body not inhibiting the production of urine during the night (by producing less vasopressin than it needs). The kidneys just keep producing urine even though the child fell asleep.

Another cause physicians just started to understand better is constipation. Most times, parents don’t even realise that their little one is dealing with this problem.

One of the most common causes is a deep sleep. Most parents who deal with the issue would describe their little ones as deep sleepers.

At this point, doctors believe there must be some other causes but they haven’t really discovered all of them. What you should remember is that bedwetting is part of growing up, and the child has no control over it. They’re not doing it to make your life harder and they’d be more than happy to make the bedwetting stop.

Two Bedwetting Cases Solved through Hypnosis

These two cases might help you understand if hypnotherapy could be an option for your child. Even though we can’t disclose the name of those involved, we can answer general questions, so please don’t hesitate to leave us your comments.

“Kylie” lives in Melbourne. She’s the mum of a wonderful 5 y.o. boy. What happened was that after more than a year after he stopped wetting the bed, it started happening again. Kylie was worried that it was a health problem, but the doctors confirmed that her little boy was 100% healthy. She talked to a naturopath who thought it all might be connected to the fact that she was expecting a new baby and recommended she try SleepTalk.

After Kylie’s first two training sessions, she started telling her little boy every evening (using the SleepTalk process) how much he is loved by his parents, and in just two days the bedwetting stopped.

“Dawn” was in a different situation. Her 7 y.o. daughter was wetting the bed almost every single night, and she looked for answers and solution in the cabinets of doctors, chiropractors and even naturopaths. The answers she got ranged from “she’ll stop after she gets older” to prescriptions for minerals, vitamins, dietary supplements. Nothing helped, and her daughter was losing her self-esteem. That’s when Dawn book a first hypnotherapy session, even though she wasn’t convinced this will work where everything else failed. In a month, the bedwetting incidents stopped almost completely, and her daughter’s self-image improved, which lead to also doing better in school.

There’s a big stigma associated with bedwetting. It’s not affecting only the self-esteem of kids, it also makes parents feel like they’re failing. Some parents are even accused of not being able to properly take care of their children.

Hypnosis might not work every single time, but it really changes the lives of those it does work for, and it’s safer and cheaper than most bedwetting treatments, so there’s nothing much to lose for giving it a try.

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Why Is It Important to Understand How Your Child’s Mind Works

As a hypnotherapist, I spend a significant part of my day with my nose in new studies, EEG scanner screens, books, emails. It’s my duty to continuously improve my understanding of how the human mind works.

Not long ago, I had one of those “aha” moments – understanding your child is one of the most important things that you should learn as a parent, but most parents don’t see the full extent of what this means.
You need to understand you child to become “effective” in guiding and nurturing your little one as they grow and mature. As parents, we get a lot of guidance about when and how they should eat, sleep, walk, talk, play etc. We do not, however, get any information on how their mind works, and I am not referring to the biological function, but the psychological function. It’s just not something we think or talk about.

So, here’s what’s worrying me… Self-esteem is a major key to success in life. The development of a positive self-concept or healthy self-esteem is extremely important to the happiness and success of children and teenagers. A positive parent-child relationship provides the framework and support for a child to develop a healthy respect and regard for self and for others. As parents, we are the first architects of this base programming of the child. In the first five years of their life, the child’s brain develops more and faster than at any other time in their life. The child’s early experiences – the things they see, hear, touch, smell and taste – stimulate their brain, creating millions of connections. This is when the foundations for learning, health and behaviour throughout life are laid down and we’re not really talking about them as much as we should.

Another thing we’re not talking about is the importance of relationships. They’re the foundation for child development. Children’s relationships affect all areas and stages of their development. Relationships are the most important experiences in the child’s environment because they teach them the most about the world around them. They also shape the way the child sees the world.

Through relationships, the child learns whether the world is safe and secure, whether they’re loved, who loves them, what happens when they cry, laugh or make a face – and much more.

The child also learns by seeing relationships between other people – for example, how a parent behaves towards their partner, and how the partner behaves towards them. This learning is the basis for the development of the child’s communication, behaviour, social and other skills. The child’s most important relationships are with the parents, other family members and carers.

All parents have this enormous power to shape their child for the rest of their life, so it is very important to understand how their mind actually works. Children are not miniature adults. Their minds work very different. What we say and how we respond is interpreted different in a child’s mind than that of an adult. What an adult says or does with good intentions might actually harm the child and not build them as intended. Many of our beliefs are formed in those early years based on what we see, hear and experience. At that time, our critical thinking skills are not fully developed and we don’t question the “mind programming” that takes place, often by adults with good intentions.

The subconscious mind relies on sensory input. Thus, it responds to reality and imagination in the same way. Younger children are especially vulnerable, accepting negative suggestions with the same energy as positive ones. If a child’s belief structure is one based largely on fear or lack of confidence, a feeling of rejection or inadequacy, the ensuing decisions made by their conscious mind will, of course, reflect those beliefs.

The opposite is also true. A positive input can build a foundation in a child that can guide them and help them endure for the rest of their lives.

That “aha” moment I talked about, was related to the fact that parents don’t have to be in the dark. I’ve dedicated a big part of my life to understanding children and I want to share what I know with others.

So, if you would like to find out more about the mind of your own child, I’d like to invite you to a free 1 hour webinar I called How your Child’s Mind Works. It will cost you nothing but an hour of your time and it can make a huge difference in the future of your child.

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‘When I Had Anxiety Attacks I Missed 5 Opportunities to Get Promoted’

Anxiety attacks can be very frightening. At the same time, people avoid talking about dealing with a panic disorder because they fear people will judge, belittle, or accuse them of seeking attention, being “drama queens”. While looking for stories from people dealing with anxiety for our blog, T. (who chose to remain anonymous) was kind enough to share her experience with panic attacks with us. If you’re dealing with anxiety issues or know someone who does, please remember that you are not alone and you don’t have to go through it all alone. 

“In my job, new contracts are won by creating proposals and going to the client’s headquarters to present them. I’m quite good at my job, but if you’d look at my resume you wouldn’t think that. Let me explain. Some years ago I started dealing with severe panic attacks. Many of them were triggered by those events (presentations, conferences) that could have helped me go further in my career.

There is absolutely no important professional event in my life that wasn’t negatively impacted by my anxiety. All that hard work, all those wasted weekends, all those vacation days I didn’t take… all for being in the same place as when I started my career.

When I had anxiety attacks I missed 5 opportunities to get promoted. Missing shots to go further in your career is easy when public speaking throws you into a pit of panic and fear you can’t escape, or when you can’t even walk into a meeting room because your anxiety is so debilitating.

The toughest part of all of this is that employers don’t want to deal with your anxiety issues. They don’t care why you started feeling nauseated and ran to the bathroom with 2 minutes before entering a board meeting to present your ideas. They also don’t care that your anxiety is stopping you from accepting speaking engagements.

The pain of being sabotaged by your own mind

If you’re anything like me, you’d have tried to understand what did you do so wrong that you deserved to go through a debilitating panic attack every single time you were about to make a big step forward. It felt like I was doomed to fail, again and again. Maybe the Univers didn’t want me to be successful, go further than my parents, make my own money, be truly independent.

It hurt to feel so many things at once at such intensities. Everything was chaos. I was afraid to open up, mad people didn’t show their support, frustrated I kept shooting myself in the foot, sad that not even my own family knew what to do with me and my anxiety attacks.

How my relationship with anxiety started

I think it all started one evening when I was at the theatre with some friends. During the play, I started feeling these weird hot flashes that soon transformed into nausea. I felt that I couldn’t breathe. I felt trapped. I imagined I would collapse and all the people in the audience and all the actors would be upset I ruined their night.

Then it started happening before any big presentation in front of important people, before speaking in public. It got so bad that the panic attacks were triggered even by the mere thought that I would have to enter a new restaurant alone. The symptoms changed sometimes, the only constant was the feeling of being trapped. Sometimes I also felt that I needed to go to the bathroom, other times I felt dizzy and had a ringing in my ears.

When the panic attacks started to look like there were here to stay and not a series of isolated incidents, I started fearing the next panic attack. I was living in a perpetual cycle of fear and panic.

What makes it easier to talk about your anxiety attacks

You might know Laura Mvula thanks to her “Sing to the Moon” song. If you don, know that she’s a British award-winning singer-songwriter. Last year, The Guardian published a piece on her and how her severe anxiety impacted her life. While I was reading her words, I had a shock – her feelings were my feelings. Finding out that there is at least one artist who deals with anxiety and is brave enough to talk about how panic attacks destroyed her marriage and almost wrecked her career gave me strength. I was not alone.

You’re not alone either. You’re not the only one to deal with anxiety attacks. There are so many people going through the same debilitating fear, looking for answers and solutions. Even though I’m not as brave as Laura Mvula to sign my name, I do want you to know that you’re not alone and that there is a way to make the panic attacks stops.

I think it’s important to share our stories with people dealing with anxiety because our co-workers, friends, or even family members usually have no idea what is going on with us.

5 things I wish my family understood when I was dealing with the anxiety attacks that were ruining my career

1. A panic attack is more than stressing over a meeting.
Sure, I wasn’t saving lives or defusing bombs but I felt that my job was important. What I was going through was more than feeling uneasy about a meeting. I couldn’t just shake it off and it definitely didn’t help hearing, “don’t worry about it”.

2. It’s not their fault I got them.
There’s no reason for my family to take my panic attacks personally. I had to deal with them and I had finally found a way to get rid of them, but at no point in time have I ever blamed someone for getting them in the first place.

3. Panic attacks can’t just be ignored.
During an anxiety attack, the fear you’re feeling is debilitating. It’s not something you can just ignore.

4. Even if I’m having a panic attack, I’m not out of my mind.
During an attack, I’m still here. and I still have the right to decide over my own life. I know all family members are trying to help, but they shouldn’t do things I didn’t agree to.

5. It’s not something I do for attention.
I’m am content with my life and the anxiety attacks weren’t something I want in my life, they were something I wish I never experienced. They brought with them chaos, fear, missed opportunities, regrets, and frustrations.

Know there’s a way out

You don’t have to tell people you’re having panic attacks if you don’t want to. You don’t have to do anything of what you don’t want to but seek help. There is treatment. It comes in many forms and one of them will be the one to help you make the anxiety attacks stop.

We’re not on this Earth for too long, so let’s do our best to get control over what we’re feeling and how we react. That’s the only way we’ll get to live the life we want.

You are not alone.